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Muckle-hummocks or Late Bloomer?

From age 12 to 13-1/2, I grew 9” in those painful 18 months.  I was a gangly, clumsy kid.  Who wouldn’t be?  My knees ached constantly and I knocked things over with great regularity.  It became an issue in my family and frankly, a punch line and callback, mostly with raised eyebrows or disgusted looks. […]

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What Do You Make Time For?

One of my favorite old movies of all time is a little known epic entitled “El Cid” starring Charlton Heston. It was one of the last of the great epics of the 1960’s with a cast of thousands. They literally had thousands of extras for the extraordinary battle scenes. Now Hollywood uses Digital Computer Graphics […]

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An Ordinary Guy?

I was enjoying a quiet breakfast in Galveston, TX with a good book. The day before I had presented to a group of 150 mangers and engineers. I was in the zone. The words just flowed. It happens sometimes. Preparation meeting opportunity. When I was done, one person stood up to clap, then another, soon […]

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Heads I Win, Tails You Lose

When I was in high school, when a conflict arose, I would take out a coin and say, “Okay, let’s flip a coin to decide. Heads I win, tails you lose.” Believe it or not, it worked about 20% of the time. A teacher admonished me for my bit of clever sleight of hand. As […]

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Sales is a Process of Both Science and Art

Yesterday, I closed a couple of speaking gigs.  As I thought about what happened, it dawned on me, sales is a process.  A process that involves both an art and a science.  Like following the instructions assembling a child’s toy,  we need to go step by step, one thing at a time.  When we do, […]

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Ten Lessons on Presentation Skills from a Local Pastor

Easter Sunday.  Westgate Chapel was packed to the rafters for second service, 11:30 am.   I reckon most people like to sleep in.  The music was inspiring, contemporary and lively.  Not why I came.  I want to see Pastor Alec Rowlands preach.  He is right in my backyard, in his late sixties, seasoned, savvy, fun and inspiring.  […]

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Go From Negative Mental Attitude to Positive Mental Attitude

I am a recovering pessimist.  I used to be caustic, cynical, negative and pessimistic.  I made fun of you given half a chance.  Hey, I was mean but i thought I was funny.  It pushed people away.  I didn’t have a clue.  Because I am a big guy, no one had the courage to tell me.  One […]

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How To Build Your Confidence and Understand Your Own Value

When I was in the 4th grade, I use to stand on the playground and wonder my insides didn’t match everyone else’s outside.  My confidence and self-worth were lacking.  I had a stutter. Girls terrified me.  Despite all that, I was searching.  Searching for answers to some of life’s questions.  The one thing I had […]

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How To APPLY and MASTER Human Relations Skills

In 1982, I read the classic self-help “How to Win Friends and Influence People” by Dale Carnegie. It changed my life. I must have read it 25 times. I listened to the audio cassette at least 10 times. (Cassettes were these these things we had…oh, never mind). Just remember, repetition really is the mother of […]

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Share Your WINS and Double Your Positive Emotions (Share Your Fears and Cut Them in Half)

One of my greatest teachers taught me a simple principle. “When you share your WINS you double your positive emotions. Conversely when you share your fears or challenges, you cut them in half.” Simple. Rare. Why donʼt most people do this? Women are smarter than men. They process all the things that are going on in their life. They […]

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